The Importance of Keeping Others Apprised of Your Mental State

mentalstateI was recently blessed to meet a woman who, a few years back, had to take on the responsibility of caring for her aging parents. She told me that being caught in the “middle” had taken it’s toll on her. She was in her late 40s. Her daughter was in high school. Her husband was a prominent attorney. Her parents, however, were in their late 70s. They had been in good health up until her father suffered a stroke and her mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease.

Despite having two brothers, the role of caretaker fell to her. She was immediately thrown into the middle of caring for her own “family” and caring for her parents, who could no longer survive on their own. Her father was a proud man and refused to leave his home. Instead, he demanded she come to his home every day with food and to keep him and his wife, her mother, company. With a child and husband of her own this seemed more of a burden than a welcome visit. [Read more...]

The Benefits of Creating Something on Your Own

=Sometimes in life it is important to “make something.” This may sound simple and silly at first but I assure you it isn’t.

A friend of mine recently told me a story about his grand-daughter. She moved to Los Angeles last year and has been following a dream of becoming an actress. She told my friend, her Grandfather, that she just doesn’t seem to feel any “self worth”. Chasing fame and prestige is exhausting and she can’t seem to remember why she even got into it in the first place. My friend informed his lovely granddaughter that in order to feel “self worth” you must create it- on your own time and on your scale. At first she seemed confused by the notion of “self-defining.” [Read more...]

Coming Out of Retirement

I have always been a “doer”. I like working with my hands, always have and, whenever I had time, I could always be found making something – usually furniture to go with one of the dollhouses I make.  Now I’m retired I have so much more time on my hands and, after managing to get a spot of early morning fishing in, I usually spend the day in my workshop.

My granddaughter has always been there, helping me when she was a child and now she has a business idea she wants me to consider.  Apparently, the market for handcrafted dollhouse furniture is huge, especially overseas, and there is a shortage of good quality items to be found.

Coming Out of Retirement

Her suggestion was this – I have a large workshop, room to store items I make and the time to make them.  She has a business degree and is trained in marketing and sales. You can see where I’m going already.

She proposed starting up a business selling handmade dollhouse furniture on the internet. I was a bit non-plussed – wouldn’t people actually want to come and see what they are buying?  Apparently not. She’s going to set up the website and then have a professional photographer come and take photos of what I have already.

These will go on the website with prices and she will advertise the site, passing on the sales orders to me to package up – you can’t just shove this stuff in a box and post it!

Back to Work

I agreed to give it a go. After all, I have time on my hands and I already have a room full of furniture ready to sell. I did agree to it on one condition – that she sets herself up in an office away from home – I will pay for it to start with and we’ll see how the business takes off.

So, today, my job is too look for suitable accommodation. I found a great website that lists office space in NYC for lease and sale so I think I will start with that one and see how we go.

Wish us luck in our new venture!

Enjoying Life at 60 and Beyond : Technology Matters

When you reach the age of 60, you have in your hands the advantage of having had much experience and wisdom to be able to make the most of your life. Also, you likely have the luxury of more free time. Most people already retire or are semi-retired when they reach this age, and are set to enjoy their golden years with the fruits of their labor.

Assuming you have kept yourself in relatively good health, the years beyond 60 are an opportune time to see and experience many of the things you have wanted to witness for yourself but have not yet had the chance to. Travel and tours are probably at the very top of the list for many 60-somethings, and why not? After all, you are no longer restricted by the 9-5 daily work schedule, so lengthy vacations, cruises, and trips abroad are a welcome change to your routine.

Travel is not only a great reward for yourself, but is also an excellent time to reconnect and spend quality time with your partner. Over the years, you may have had less and less time for each other as you got caught up in all the hustle and bustle of daily activities. Now, you will be able to bond with each other again and explore new things together, making the most of your senior years.

As you reach the age of 60, you may also find that your priorities change, and more than any wealth or material possessions, spending as much of your moments with your family, friends, and loved ones has become much more valuable. Now that you have more free time, being able to see your children’s accomplishments, perhaps even watching your grandchildren grow up, are memories that will be forever cherished and enjoyed. You may even find immense pleasure in reuniting with long-lost friends, rekindling connections with your peers or colleagues from decades ago, and just having lengthy conversations and heartfelt laughs about your years past. With advances toward conveniences in some of the best cell phones for seniors, including ones that are both functional and easy to operate, phone calls to your friends or loved ones in faraway places can become simple but enjoyable rituals.

With technological advances these days, mobility and communication have become very convenient and user-friendly, making the senior years more manageable and allowing those over 60 to still enjoy their activities and pursuits. Having a functional cell phone, for instance, allows you not only to stay in touch with those you love, but also to access information that you will need in order to maximize your travel plans. Distance is no longer a hindrance with such new technologies, as the world has become interconnected thanks to today’s advancements in communications.

For some, retiring at 60 is not the priority, but rather finding fulfillment in a career change or a personal cause. If you have always wanted to be more involved in a charitable organization or foundation, volunteer for a community event or your local church, or start a business with a positive impact on your community, now is the best time to immerse yourself in these new pursuits using the web, especially if you have less responsibilities weighing you down, and more time to focus your energy on what you really like. For many seniors, getting started with the internet is the most difficult hurdle. From my personal experience I can assure you that a quick phone call to the Comcast telephone number goes a long way towards getting your internet connection setup and enabling you to surf the web pronto. Consistent practice makes things possible from there.

Though it’s quite a leap for those who have all but shunned technology in the past, I have found technology to become an essential part of my enjoyment of retirement. Take the tiny steps needed to reconnect yourself with the world, and you’ll be amazed at the joy it can bring to you as well.

A Disappearing Craft

I remember when my wife, God rest her soul, used to sit and sew, every evening. She was always sewing, whether it was patching up my clothes, sewing new ones or embroidering a tablecloth.  Sewing is a craft that seems to have all but disappeared from life. Clothes are so cheap now that people tend to just throw them away and buy new ones.

Bringing it back

My wife taught my daughter to sew but I noticed that she wasn’t passing that skill on to her daughter. I wanted to bring it back so I approached my daughter and put my idea to her.  She agreed and, later on that week both of them came to visit me.

My daughter was armed with two machines – one for embroidery and a sewing machine.  She set them both down and proceeded to explain them in simple terms to a young girl and an old man- that’s right, I was going to learn to sew.

The embroidery machine fascinated me – my wife always did hers by hand but my daughter explained that there are machines for everything these days. She said that the one she had was the best embroidery machine she could find from reading these reviews.

Learning to Sew

My daughter was an excellent teacher, her mother would have been proud of her. She explained how to use the machines in language that suited both my 7-year-old granddaughter and me and made it easy to understand.

I’m starting to see why my wife enjoyed the craft so much. It’s relaxing, stress free and, unlike many other pastimes of today, there is an end result.  Now, people may laugh at an old man for learning how to use a sewing machine in his dotage but I ask you this – where does it say that sewing is women’s work? Where does it say that a man should not learn how to use a sewing machine?

I tell you, it says it nowhere. I believe that people should do what they are comfortable doing and learning to use a sewing machine suits me.  I took my daughter’s advice and looked on the internet to find the best sewing machine for beginners and, as soon as it arrives, I’ll be well away.

Divorce Hurts Everyone

Being a father and a grandfather is hard work sometimes. Its not that I don’t enjoy it, it’s just that sometimes events overtake us and make things a real struggle. I love my children and I love my grandchildren with all my heart and more.

Visits with my grandchildren are the highlight of my week – I get to see how they are growing, how they are developing and find out how well they are doing at school.  But it wasn’t always like that.

Close Relations

My son and his wife lived just a few blocks from us. It was easy to see them and it made our retirement that much more special. It meant we got to spend more time with them, take them on trips out fishing or for picnics.

One day last year that all changed.  My son left his wife. He says he wanted more out of life and didn’t try to gain much access to his children. Now, that just broke my heart – no father should ever turn their backs on their children, no matter what the problems. 

His wife stayed in the house so we took matters in our own hands and went to see her and the grandchildren.  It wasn’t a successful visit – because of the way my son was behaving, she fought back by not allowing us access to our own grandchildren.  I understand that she was hurting and this was her only defense mechanism but it hurt us as well.

Eventually they divorced and both moved on but when new relationships started, the children started to play up. They would make life difficult; play one parent off against the other, especially as they didn’t see their dad very often.

Our Way of Coping

Eventually things started to change and my son started to see his children again. He and his ex-wife reached an amicable agreement and that meant we could see them again.  That took some time though and, in the meantime, to help us cope and make us feel as though we were doing something, we started donating money to UNICEF to help other more unfortunate children.

We see our grandchildren regularly now and everyone is happy but we still send those donations – it’s the Christian thing to do, help others who have little and make sure they have a chance at life.

The Art of Encouraging Others

The dictionary defines encouragement as “to inspire someone to with the courage and confidence to do something.” In the Bible, we can find numerous verses testifying to the encouraging character of God. In the Old Testament book of Joshua, God appointed the young man, Joshua, to lead the Israelites upon the death of Moses. However, Joshua was apprehensive because he felt inadequate for such a gargantuan task. To encourage him, God said “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”

In this day and age when everyone is living a fast-paced life and the main focus is only on the self, it seems that people are too busy to take the time to show compassion for others. As Christians, though, we are to be the mirror of God’s love towards others; and one way of demonstrating this love is through encouragement.

You might have heard stories about men and women who achieved tremendous success through the encouragement of other people. Such is the effect of giving courage. However, in order for your words of encouragement to be effective, they must be sincere and realistic, not mere lip service. In the absence of sincerity, the good word you say to someone is just flattery. For example, telling someone that he did a great job when the opposite is true is being dishonest. Telling a child that she will be a great singer one day even if she can’t hold a note together is being unrealistic. Instead, you can point out her other talents and encourage her to achieve her dreams by using them.

Encouraging someone need not be limited to words. Gestures that show you care are just as effective as well. A phone call or a short note to a friend who is going through a difficult situation, to let him know that he is not alone in his predicament, will give him more courage to face it. If the person who needs encouragement is a woman, a good way to lift her spirits is by giving her a beautiful bouquet of flowers. For a more personal touch, you can handpick flowers from your own garden. If you don’t have one, you can always have flowers delivered to her home. Conveniently, there are several online sites these days that accept requests for flower deliveries through the internet, like this site for flower delivery in Perth, Australia.

When you give encouragement to someone, don’t expect him to encourage you in return. Like love, encouragement should be given freely without anticipating a payback. If you are doing it to receive praise of to be acknowledged for your actions, it is an indication that you are doing it for yourself and not for others. It also suggests that you were not sincere in the first place.

Lastly, realize that you need encouragement too. Just because you take the time and effort to give courage to other people does not mean that you are exempted. Thus, you have to consistently remind yourself to be positive while staying realistic.

Encouragement is an act that takes very minimal investment in time and effort on your part. The kind words you speak to someone today can have a tremendous and positive impact in his life tomorrow, even if you might not see it. Help make the world a better place by practicing the art of encouraging others every day.

The Joys of Retirement: The So-Called Golden Years

Aging isn’t too bad and by all accounts, I enjoy the time I spend in retirement. I get to focus on some of the things I didn’t always have time for when I was younger. There are so many different stories I could tell you about, but in all honesty, I want to talk about the things that I find important now. My family, hobbies, religion, and every once in a while, a good drink, are all parts of my healthy retired life. Here are some of the things that I find worthwhile now that I have the time for them.

Woodwork and My Grandkids

When my son told me I was going to be a grandfather, I immediately went to my workshop and started work on a little rocking horse. But to my surprise, my daughter in-law gave birth to a healthy baby girl. I wasn’t exactly used to making wood sculptures for girls, so I decided to learn about how one goes about making a dollhouse. The whole procedure is quite daunting, which is why I was happy that it would take a few years before they could actually play with the thing. After a few years’ worth of practice and education on the best kinds of carving wood, I finally managed to produce something I was proud of. It won’t be too long before my granddaughters start talking about ultherapy in Texas or other kinds of therapies and treatments, so I’m going to make the most of my time with them right now.

Religion

I’m a devout man, there’s no doubt about that. At the same time though, I don’t like to talk about my faith that much. I guess that’s a job more suited to preachers, because I never found comfort in forcing my beliefs on people. What I am going to say is that I do find a certain kind of joy when I pray. Now, I’m not going to tell you what you should believe, I just want to tell you that it’s okay to submit yourself to something bigger. It could be a project, an ideal, a philosophy, or religion, it doesn’t matter. Just try it out because you may find the same comfort every time I take prayer.

Fishing and a Bit of Drinking

I’m not one to drink every weekend; my dad didn’t raise me that way, although, I do enjoy drinking a few cans whenever I go fishing. There’s something very serene about a lake when everything’s quiet around you. You don’t have to talk about dermal fillers, weekends at the spa, beauty tips and school troubles. All you need to do is to sit and watch the world go by. And, if you’re lucky, you may actually get to go home with a few fresh fish in tow as well.

That’s about it for now, I thank you for reading and I hope that you go with God wherever you may be. Remember, try fishing and a bit of woodworking; you might find them just as relaxing as I do.

Types of Physical Therapy and Conditions It Can Treat

As we age, we become more prone to illnesses and injuries. This may affect your mobility, coordination, balance, strength and flexibility, and it may also cause pain. Physical therapy can help old people to move easier and perform their daily tasks with little to no help from another person. Let’s get to know the different types of physical therapy and some of the conditions or diseases that it can treat.

Types of Physical Therapy

  • Ultrasound – in this type of physical therapy, sound waves that are high pitched are used for relaxing the muscles. This is often done before and after the patient exercised.
  • Heat Therapy – this is performed to relax the muscles, loosen joints, as well as to enhance the circulation of blood in the system. This is also done prior to exercise and is often a treatment for those who have difficulties moving.
  • Cold Therapy – ice massage and ice packs are often used in this type of therapy. It’s used to treat inflammation, swelling and pain.
  • Hydrotherapy – water is used in this type of therapy. It’s often performed for relaxing the body, as well as improving blood circulation and maintaining health.
  • Manual Therapy – as the term suggests, the therapist uses his hand to massage the patient. This allows patients to feel more relaxed. It also improves flexibility and reduces pain.

Diseases That It Can Treat

  • Arthritis – this is one of the most common conditions on seniors. This is the inflammation of joints, which causes pain and difficulty moving. Physical therapy can help alleviate inflammation and pain.
  • Alzheimer’s – the physical therapist helps the patient with some exercise that could help in improving the memory.
  • Incontinence – there are exercises that are thought to prevent this condition.
  • Parkinson’s Disease – patients also do specific exercises to prevent robotic movements caused by this disease.
  • Stroke – physical therapy helps strengthen the weak parts of the body due to stroke.

Physical therapy is offered in different cities in the US including Irvine. Find a professional physical therapist in Irvine that is trusted in this field and has the right training and experience.

Personal Tips to Become the Best Grandfather

One of the perks of getting old is enjoying your grandchildren to the fullest. While I am with them, I realize due to pressures of my professional job and domestic duties, I was hardly able to experience the childhood of my own children. Thus, making the most out of nature's second chance, here are a few of my personal tips to maximize the love and bond with your grandchildren. We have developed a few family traditions and share some exclusive grandfather and children time which has lead to the kind of bonding and trust that I had always dreamed of. Here is my tried and tested successful formulae of being the best grandfather. 

Share Words of Wisdom
No age is young enough to share a few pieces of wisdom with. I have come to acknowledge the fact that children tend to learn physics, science and other knowledgeable things in books and schools, but what neither of the places is able to impart is wisdom and strength of character. While children usually suffer with the lack of communication with their parents, grandparents should make sure that they are there to fill in the gap and let the kids know the difference between morals, values, rights and wrongs in their own peaceful and understanding manner. 

Give Away Pieces of Your Past
I could not have understood the importance of giving away old valuables until I saw the beam on my grandchild's face and the twinkle in his eyes when I gave away one of my treasured keepsakes. In our days, we were fans of hand built RC helicopters, and I have a collection of my own. By giving one of the most treasured RC helicopters, I won the trust and love of my little one. It's okay if you do not have personal items safe and sound with you, buy a similar gift and share your experiences and stories with them for the cherished bond to prosper. I came across RC helicopter reviews here and was stunned to find the best rc helicopter at RC Helicopter Hobbyist, which is currently my grandson's favorite possession. 

Spend Time Outdoors
Make it a point to pack a bag of edibles and leave for outdoor destinations every once in a while. If you cannot manage long distances, then going to the park or seaside can also be activities that your grandchild would not only love but would eagerly look forward to as well. In this era, parents pamper their children with digital gadgets and games, the true value of playing in the sun, spending time outdoors and building memories are quite forgotten by the new league of parents. Thus, as a grandparent, I love to enjoy these benefits and build memories that I and my grandchildren will surely reminisce for the rest of our lives. 

Carve Out Your Secret Language
What's interesting about a family is, only they can get the crazy jokes and stories while others keep guessing what did they miss in the laughter and conversation. A grandfather is the perfect figure to carve a secret language for the family. A word or two, or phrases can really spark up the energy and keep the grandparents and children bond going strong for years. 

Living an Active Life as a Healthy Senior

The day I retired was the day I asked myself the big question; what am I supposed to do now? For a very long while, I couldn’t find an answer, and the lack of activity was driving me mad. So, after a few weeks I decided to think like my young grand-kids did, in that instead of doing something productive, I did something fun. Being a senior doesn’t mean the end of the world. Quite the contrary, in fact, it just meant that I had to find other ways to entertain myself.

3. Reading New Books

I love the classics and I still try to re-read some of my favorite books, but at the same time, there are so many new promising authors out there. People like John Green have a way with words, but if you want an exhaustive read, the Game of Thrones books are also a great read. My son actually got me a tablet for the purpose of reading, and I am overwhelmed by this online library. I’m actually trying to find a laser eye surgeon in Green Bay to improve my otherwise deteriorating vision so that I can enjoy them more.

2. Handy Hobbies

While I do love to relax and read a good book every once in a while, sometimes I get antsy. When I get like that, I usually turn to more physical hobbies. Two of my personal favorites are fishing and woodworking. They’re both relatively cheap and keep me occupied for hours on end. Of course, the learning curve is sort of steep; I personally think the time you put in is worth it.

1. Travelling

For the longest time during my employment, I would always choose to forget my vacation days in favor of more work. If you’ve done the same, then let me tell you how fun it is to travel. Now, if you’re a little afraid of getting out of the country, there’s no reason to fret. There are many locales right in your backyard that have deep history or offer some pretty fun activities for folks our age.

Just because you’re a little older, doesn’t mean you have to stop having fun.

Visit Turkey for Relaxation After Retirement

When you have already retired and have saved a lot of money while you were still working, the best thing to do is to make the most out of your savings to see the world and enjoy while you still can. Arrange trips around the world, especially in places that will make you feel relaxed and appreciate more the wonders of nature. If you plan to have this trip, you might want to consider visiting Turkey.

As they say, this country is where the East meets the West. This country is not just a perfect blend of various cultures, but it is also perfect if you wish to relax and enjoy the beauty of nature. If you are convinced that this country is your next perfect destination, here are some of the highly recommended places for you to visit:

• Ephesus. This is a historical and Biblical place. It is currently being excavated and restored for the world to see. This city is said to have been built around 7th century BC or even earlier. This city is said to be the place where Virgin Mary lived the last moments of her life. The place is totally magnificent and awe-inspiring.

• Kusadasi. If you are into fun, night life and other enjoyable activities by the beach, then this is the place to go. A lot of people come here due to the number of luxury hotels and relaxing accommodation. The place also abounds with spa and the beaches are totally pristine. You may also go for cruise lines that travel around the area for a day or so.

Pamukkale. If you wish to visit a UNESCO Heritage Site, then you better go here. It has tons of hot springs made from calcium carbonate and limestone. It also has lots of beautiful hotels around for you to stay before and after visiting the site.

There are a lot more surprises in store for you if you visit Turkey. Go ahead and check these places out by organizing your trip now. For more information about Turkey Tours, visit this site.